There have been a lot of new things in my life recently. Most prolific are the changes and deteriorations to my health and fitness. This has brought about many changes too in a domino effect of sadness. I have lost friends who I thought were dear and true to me alongside friends who were just out to grab what I could give at the time. Both hurt as much as the other actually, I'm not sure why but being left out of parties and play dates of people I was just starting to know cut as deep a wound as being ignored by friends of 15yrs+. I think it's because it made me feel that this.was.it. Now I was ill, no ne else would want to make friends, put up with my occasional flakiness, bother to understand me... why would they? Too much hassle for someone you barely know when there's a wealth of healthy individuals who can stay out all day running around parks, London museums, restaurants, nights out. To top it off I'm a horror sci-fi fan who is into metal and hippy stuff. Still a taboo in the general world of 'mummy dating' it seems...
...but it also brought about a domino effect of happiness that I wasn't expecting. I DID meet new people. People who understood what it was like to feel chronic pain and be left behind like the lame dog. People who understood what it was like never quite fitting in with the popular group. People who understood how it felt to have a bit of a 'what the fuck' life moment and are still not quite sure how they're going to pick their stuff up and get it all together. These people have been part of the backbone that has helped me pull myself back up (alongside my fantastic hubster, children, parents and very close friends). I'm really thankful for that.
One of these people is Tamz from The Fit & Fluffy Mama. This lovely lady is a true inspiration to me and we stumbled across each other quite randomly one evening in a parenting forum on Facebook which is based around a love for slings and babywearing. She was in hospital on Mother's Day and posted a gorgeous photo of her LO's handprints given to her as a gift from her friend. We got chatting about the hospital thing and realised that we are sharing the same specialist hospital (UCLH). Now, we have different health things going on, Tamsin is coping with an extremely painful and rare condition that I can only imagine how hard it is dealing with but she took the time to write back, to be positive and shine love, to think of others when she is going through the most terrible time... like I say, a true inspiration. On top of that, through our chats and reading her blog, I've discovered she is one cool cookie too and wanted to share her ramblings with you all.
So please, take some time out to pop over and check The Fit & Fluffy Mama out. Tamz has just made her debut into vlogging and is currently writing some ace pieces about re-useable cloth menstrual pads. Definitely informative, important and eye-opening reading! Say 'Hi!' from me! Xx
Who is Julie?
30 something, mother of two gorgeous boys, lover of one gorgeous husband, perpetually living in a dream world full of wine, chocolate and artsy crafty things.